a few weeks ago, I was having a conversation w/ one of my closest gfs about our wknd mornings. she made a comment about how most saturdays, she purposely wakes up earlier so that she can have 'time for herself.'
this made me realize as of late, I never take time for myself.
& I wonder why I'm on the brink of the anxiety attack of all anxiety attacks.
my wknd mornings generally consist of: setting alarms for plans, rolling around restless & nursing unnecessary hangovers. none of this includes finding time for myself, finding time to do what I want. I've been irresponsibly pushing my needs to the side, on account of others and on account of avoidance...and w/ a jam-packed november schedule, I've got to check myself before I wreck myself.
one of my greatest flaws is my inability to connect w/ my own emotions. so when I'm under 300lbs of stress, my first focus is on those around me—my boyfriend, family members, friends, coworkers. so much so, that however I'm feeling is irrelevant, and for someone like myself, that's ideal...on most occasions.
the moment things become no longer "ideal" is when I involuntarily explode on the (sometimes innocent) sucker who said the wrong thing at the wrong time. I've quickly learned how shameful it feels to apologize for being "psycho," so here's what I'm doing to feel better mentally:
1. TAKE TIME: finding "me time" regardless of the circumstances. if it means I have to wake up at 5:45am, I'm waking up at the crack of dawn. *already yawning*
2. WORK OUT, CONSISTENTLY: I'm a significantly happier human when I'm active, and I know you are too—we all are. it's a proven health fact ☝️
3. READDDD: reading used to be my greatest escape, & it's disappointing how little I do it now. not anymore! going fwd, I will pick up a book before I turn on my tv.
4. STAY ORGANIZED: when I'm unorganized, it feels like the end of the world. I spend more time scattered than productive. I need to re-open my agenda & re-prioritize my tasks, goals, etc.
5. (TRY TO) MEDITATE FOR 5MINS/DAY: sometimes I'm successful, other times I'm a complete failure. frustrating, I know...but practice makes perfect. right?
Just this week I've gotten back into working out and it's already doing wonders for my mental health- seriously!! Sounds like these are all such great positive changes!
ReplyDeletexoxo A
www.southernbelleintraining.com
that's so great to hear babe! x
DeleteI feel like I'm in the EXACT same place as you. I've been working on my morning routine...mostly unsuccessfully. But it is so good to workout and to energize ourselves in the way that we know works! It should be a priority, you're right!
ReplyDeletehopefully we can help keep each other motivated towards the end goal - bettering ourselves! (even if it means we're struggling w/ the a.m. routine...) x
DeleteYes, I totally believe in taking time for yourself. I need to establish more of a morning routine.
ReplyDeletehappy we're on the same page! x
DeleteGirl, I feel ya. I actually look forward to M-F because I'm not a huge fan of the way I've been spending weekends lately. I'm also trying to work out (& eat healthier) more!
ReplyDeletesaaame. I find that I'm more regimented during the week than I am wknds, but we have to stay consistent allllll week x
DeleteI am right there with ya, girl. I've been wasting so much time just lying in bed and ignoring my thoughts and feelings. Here's to taking more time for ourselves and doing what we love 🥂
ReplyDeletehappy to hear I'm not alone, but we have to work together to do better & be better! x
DeleteI've been trying to get better at making time for myself. It's been so hard lately and I feel like i'm running around with my head cut off!
ReplyDeleteI feel you w/ the head cut off feeling 😂 x
DeleteI do most of these things but man life just gets in the way. I definitely want to read more. :)
ReplyDeleteso crazy how life can sneak up on ya! x
DeleteYes to working out! So important!
ReplyDeleteone of -the- most important! x
DeleteI always wake up a little early on Saturdays to take time for myself- it feels so peaceful!
ReplyDelete-Nicholle
www.nichollesophia.com
right!? it's helping, but still a struggle since I'm no morning person. x
DeleteI definitely need to take more time to read and workout! Those are definitely going on my new years list.
ReplyDelete-xo, Azanique | www.lotsofsass.com
it's about that time for some resolutions, girl! x
DeleteI need more me time for sure! That's a must these days!
ReplyDeleteyou ain't kidding gf! x
DeleteYour friend and I have that in common - I always wake up early because that's the only time I have for myself!
ReplyDeletexo Deborah
Coffee, Prose, and Pretty Clothes
I'm trying to be more like the two of you, it's (somewhat) happening regularly! x
DeleteThis is huge! I do not take time for myself either and whenever I do, I always feel guilty that I'm not working or doing something on my to do list.
ReplyDeleteThese are all great things to focus on! Me time is so important.
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