THE CHRONICOLES #10: GETTIN' REAL

it's kind of ironic the last #CHRONICOLES I wrote about focused on "taking time
because it's exactly what I've been doing these last few weeks.

november thru january is tough for me, and I'm hopeful it'll get easier every year and eventually, won't just result in me completely disconnecting. the holidays are hardly enjoyable after the unexpected loss of your father, regardless how long it's been. (two years for me.) in addition, it's also the anniversary of his passing. (also, two years.) 

sry for that heaviness...but coming back to NICOLE LEIGH, I want to be as real as possible. the whole "influencer" thing can become toxic. the facades, the editing, the likes. then, even though I'm the micro-est of micro bloggers, there's super frustrating moments for me like, understanding new algorithm's, finding the strategy that will help me become a micro blogger, but mostly, letting the negative stigma around blogging get to my head. (sometimes) I couldn't imagine what it takes to deal w/ the stereotyping from a 100k+, 500+, 1mill+ following.

it's no surprise an internet-based industry would run into incredible judgement though; we learned yearsssss ago how easy it is to bully behind a computer screen. now everyone's just doing it behind their smartphone screens. like our parents taught us back then: if you don't have anything nice to say, don't fcking say it. k? ✨

got some fun stuff comin' up for ya, so be sure to stick around!
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SHOP THE LOOK:
jacket, bershka // jeans, urban outfitters (in black) // hat, century 21 (similar) // 
sunglasses, a.j. morgan (borrowed from my best bb, @chelseafives

22 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry the holidays were a rough time girl!! And I feel you on the pressure of blogging... I feel like it's really gotten to my head lately. :/

    xoxo A
    www.southernbelleintraining.com

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    1. thx gf, and we have to stick together then! there's no reason this fun, creative outlet should cause any negativity in our lives. x

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  2. bless you for your transparency in this post! I can relate to every word you wrote <3 so sorry for your loss, sending you love, strength, and stability!

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    1. this means more to me than you know, babe! x

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  3. Holidays always seem to be a downer time for me too. But it's a new year and I'm trying to look up. :)

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    1. I think that's the best part of the holidays..knowing there's all this newness to prep for right around the corner - #silverlining! x

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  4. i hope you get the time you need to heal, losing someone who is so important to you is inevitably tough, but whenever i think of those people in my life, i find the ways that they surround me, and it always makes me smile, even in the sadness i feel. wish you nothing but the best in this new year!

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    1. thanks for sharing how you cope gf, I love your outlook! & I hope nothing but the same for you this new year toooo. x

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  5. Oh no, I'm sorry that the holidays are rough for you. I appreciate your transparency in this post though. More of that is needed in the blogosphere.

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    1. thanks babe, and I couldn't agree w/ you more! maybe if we did have that transparency from every and less "fakeness" from behind the lens, we'd lose the need to keep up and rid some of the toxicity around this industry! x

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  6. I can really appreciate your honesty in this post, and I too have definitely felt the struggle. I think we need more of this honesty and transparency in the blogging world because no one really quite understands the feeling

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    1. I think so many of us can relate to these feelings & that says something about what this hobby/job/creative outlet (whatever you want to consider it) has become. how are we supposed to relate to "influencers" if what they want us to resonate with is just a front? x

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  7. Losing someone is always so hard, so sorry to hear that.

    On an unrelated (and superficial note), I love your beanie in that pic

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    1. you're not kidding babe, and thank youuu - I got it last winter, so couldn't find the exact one to link but gave similar styles to shop! x

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  8. Oh man, I can't even begin to tell you how much I relate to this post! Being a blogger doesn't mean what it used to even 3 years ago!

    xo Deborah
    Coffee, Prose, and Pretty Clothes

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    1. love that you can relate, gf! & it's changed so much - some parts for the better, others for the worst. it's up to us to keep transforming it the best we can! x

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  9. This whole internet world can get pretty brutal! Hopefully your next few months are better!
    -Nicholle
    www.nichollesophia.com

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    1. sure can, and thanks gf..they're definitely looking up so far! x

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  10. I love posts that are so real!!! Great post!

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